Couples who continue dating within marriage are most successful. They don’t take the formal commitment for granted and remember what made “them” happen.
He’s Not Marriage Material If He:
"We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet….. I mean, what does any one life mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things….. all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness."
Shall We Dance
"It sounds like a cliché, but it helps if you make each other laugh—a lot. There isn’t a person on earth who understands my sense of humor better than my wife: We speak the same language, and that’s why we ended up together."
"When I first met him, it’s not that I thought, ‘Oh, this is the guy I’m going to marry.’ But it was a very comfortable feeling. He balances me."
"Most people don’t marry the loves of their lives. You marry for compatibility; for friendship. It may not be a kind of relationship where you can read each others minds, but it’s comforting, like a familiar warm spot on your favorite chair. That’s just another kind of love, one that doesn’t burn itself out, one that lasts in the real world."
Jodi Picoult, Songs of the Humpback Whale (via simply-quotes)